A pod is a central location where UURMaPA members may gather to participate in our virtual conference. The pod may utilize a church with appropriate audio-visual technology to allow group participation for major presentations like the keynote address and also have the capacity for small group breakouts. Alternately, a pod may use a conference center that has the capability of hosting this type of gathering. Whichever is used, it must be fully accessible for our members.
Team Leadership
Each pod should have a team of individuals to share the organization of the pod. At least two people will be responsible for the various needs to put together a successful pod. Three to four would be ideal so that all aspects are covered. One person should be sophisticated in audio-visual technology, or have access to someone to contact in the event of technical issues that may come up during the conference.
Sleeping Accommodations
Organizers using a church should consider where travelers might find sleeping arrangements. The location should be near hotels or motels with different price points. Some pods may offer a list of alternative accommodations such as Airbnb or bed and breakfast locations nearby. If using a conference center, make sure rooms are accessible.
Meals
A pod provides food during the conference. It may provide catered meals on premises where people share the cost or provide a list of local restaurants where people can partake of differing cuisines. Coffee, tea and water should be available throughout the conference. A pod using a conference center will have the meal service provided as part of the cost of the center. Healthy snacks, such as fruit or energy bars, should also be available. A system of reimbursement for alcoholic beverages will allow those who partake to do so without burdening the cost of the pod unnecessarily.
Transportation
Some people may use public transit to travel to the pod location. The pod organizers should identify which modes of travel are convenient to get to the pod. If possible, pick up and drop off for those using public conveyances should be offered. Also, helping people travel from hotels to the church daily should be considered. An alternative is using Lyft or Uber services if they are available.
Technology
Since this is an online and in-person event, the host site should have the capability for adequate interactions with those online and in the room. Robust wireless connections for laptops and a strong, reliable internet connection for the video projector are critical. A person familiar with the host technology is required should technical issues arise. Also, sound amplification is needed for interactions between the pod and others online. This might mean a microphone for speakers who are interacting with a keynote or other presentation. There is also the possible need for assisted hearing devices for individuals.
BreakoutSpace
There are times for small group sessions as part of the conference. Separate rooms where smaller groups of pod participants can gather will be needed. These spaces should also have wireless connectivity. Comfortable seating will allow for a pleasant experience. Depending on the size of the pod, two to four rooms may be needed to keep the breakouts to no more than 6 individuals.
Costs
Each pod should be self-sufficient financially. Individuals may apply for scholarships to reduce the cost of registration. Each pod should develop a budget for food. The pod location may request reimbursement for the use of the space and or supplies for meals. Pod organizers should not bear the total cost of the pod. A possible solution is to ask everyone attending a pod to contribute the same amount to cover shared meals and drinks excepting alcohol. A pod at a retreat center may apply for an advance to cover the cost of making a reservation. The advance will be paid back through registrations at that site.
Publicity
Each pod will coordinate with the planning committee to publicize the pod location so people may make choices of where to travel. Each pod should highlight local attractions that might entice attendees to come to that pod location. One member of the pod team should be designated as contact to answer questions and create a list of attendees.
Health Concerns
Given that covid continues to affect the our society, the pod organizers need to follow the national and local protocols concerning precautions for in-person meetings, social distancing and mask wearing. Organizers and attendees also need to follow the protocols and mandates of the specific location where the pod will be gathering. The current conditions should be communicated to any who might attend so that they can make their own health risk assessment.
Our association is fortunate to host Joyce Gilbert for an Odyssey presentation at the spring conference. Joyce is married to the Rev. Richard Gilbert, longtime minister of the First Unitarian Church in Rochester NY.
Joyce Timmerman descended from Palatine Germans who were drawn to the message of Universalist ministers in New York State after the French and Indian War. Growing up in the Universalist Church of Fort Plain NY, she met minister-to-be Dick Gilbert at Unirondack, the Universalist summer camp in the Adirondacks. Their paths continued to cross and merged 63 years ago.
Music in and beyond churches has always been central in her life. A founder of the UU Musicians Network (now AUUMM), she regarded that group as her third child—after sons Matthew and Douglas. Her theme? “Life is but a song to sing.”
The conference is scheduled for April 15th through the 17th online or in person at Wilmington, Delaware or Kingston, Massachusetts. You can register for the conference at the UURMaPA website <uurmapa.org>. The conference fee is $45 per individual and scholarships are available. For more information and program details, check the Activities page on our webpage: <uurmapa.org/activities>.
The Rev. Barbara Jean Kulcher died on February 20, 2024, at the age of 92 (1931–2024).
Barbara was born on June 26, 1931, in Winnipeg, Manitoba to James M. McClughan and Edna May McClughan. She was an only child and raised in the Anglican tradition. Her family frequently moved and for a while lived in a rural section of Ontario, Canada. Barbara did quite well in school, completed her high school education at a fundamentalist school in Saskatchewan (1948), and received her RN in psychiatric nursing in 1953.
She then took a position as the sole clinical person in an isolated power station in northern Manitoba. Over the years Barbara worked in orthopedics, obstetrics, and neurosurgery. She moved to Ontario with her husband and had four children before their separation.
While in Ontario, Barbara became active at the First Unitarian Hamilton, Ontario. She served the church, first as a church school director from (1965–1968) and then as a church administrator (1969–1974). As a church administrator, she served a key role in the life of the church as she bridged the gap between the departure of the minister Rev. Bob Hemstreet, and the development of the church into a dynamic fellowship. She worked closely with the church service committee to provide meaningful Sunday services which blended people from the church and the larger community with visiting UU ministers. She went beyond the role of administrator, initiated several groups in the church, and kept abreast with new RE developments.
Over years of growth and transformation into a warm, caring religious community, her function became more pastoral than administrative, and she was able to acknowledge her desire to serve as a minister. Unitarianism offered her a chance to grow, as she was exposed to an affirming, reconciling, religious experience. In 1979, she received her Master of Divinity from Bangor Theological Seminary.
Rev. Kulcher was ordained on September 28, 1980, by the First Unitarian Church of Hamilton, Ontario. From 1980 to 1981, she served the UU Congregation of Jamestown NY, and then spent her predominant years as a chaplain at the following institutions: Ontario Correctional Institute, ON; Huronia Regional Center, ON; Hamilton Wentworth, ON; Toronto Jail, ON; Hamilton Psychiatric Hospital, ON; and Brantford Jail, ON. In a newspaper
article (Hamilton Spectator) in 1985, she was quoted as stating the importance of “befriending the forgotten and offering words of grace and hope to the frightened and often lonely inmates.”
Rev. Kulcher was a strong supporter of the denomination. She was extensively involved with the Canadian Unitarian Council, St. Lawrence UU District, the UU Women’s Federation, and Unicamp of Ontario (1977).
Barbara was famous for her pies, specifically apple and lemon meringue. She was an avid reader, enjoying history, historical fiction, and science fiction. She was a prolific writer, who spent many hours revising and perfecting her heartfelt and deeply engaging papers, articles, and sermons. She greatly valued the act of saying kind or funny things to bring a smile to someone’s face.
Barbara is survived by and loved and remembered by her four children: David Kulcher, Lisa Kulcher-Heaney (Kieran Heaney), Laurie Kulcher, and Kelly Kulcher (Lori Kulcher); six grandchildren and six great-grandchildren.
A graveside service took place on Saturday, June 22, 2024, at the First Unitarian Church of Hamilton, 170 Dundurn St S, Hamilton, ON L8P 4K3, Canada.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Peter’s Residence at Chedoke, 125 Redfern Ave, Hamilton, ON L9C 7W9, Canada.
Job Description (approved by the Board on 2/14/24)
The Connections Coordinator’s duties include:
➢ Upon receipt of an Intent to Retire notice, send the new member(s) a welcoming email A. to provide an overview of opportunities to connect with other UURMaPAns B. to connect the New Member with their Area Connector (if identified)
➢ Annually, in July-September A. Determine the willingness of current Area Connectors to continue service for upcoming year B. (for Areas with no continuing Connector), send an All-Area-Member email soliciting interest in serving as Connector C. Contact Open Special Interest Group Facilitators to determine identity of Facilitator for coming year (if any) D. Send an UURMaPA-Announce notice soliciting interest in forming/facilitating new Special Interest Groups for the coming year
➢ Semi-Annually in October and April A. Contact Peer Support Group Facilitators to determine a. Identity of Group Members desiring to continue in the Group for the following six months b. Identity of the Facilitator of each Continuing Group c. Openness of each Continuing Group to welcome new Members B. Send an UURMaPA-Announce notice a. soliciting interest in entering or forming a Peer Support Group b. publicizing all Open Special Interest Groups C. Assign and introduce interested new Members to ongoing Groups. D. Facilitate interested Members to form & launch new Groups
Geographical Areas of UURMaPA’s membership may be served by one or more Connector(s), whose duties include: ➢ Upon receipt of the Connection Coordinator’s welcome letter copy, make contact with each new Member. ➢ Annually, make contact with each ongoing Area Member A. to ascertain accuracy of directory information and notify Membership Coordinator of updates B. to assess/support Members’ interest in UURMaPA activities (Most recent list of members living in each Area is available on website, www.uurmapa.org, under Publications/Directories/Area Connections Directory, password WISDOM.) ➢ Upon receipt of UURMaPA-Announce notice of an Area member’s death, make personal contact with survivor(s) ➢ Upon learning of the death of an Area Partner-Member, send notice to the Assistant Connections Chair.
Revised by the Board 4/12/16 and 9/14/16 Reviewed and approved by Art Severance, Connections Chair 2019-2021. Revision proposed by Fritz Hudson, Connections Coordinator, January 17, 2024 Revised version approved by the Board, February 15, 2024
Our association is fortunate to host the Rev. Anita Farber-Robertson for an Odyssey presentation at the spring conference. She retired in 2020 after 40 years of active ministry, serving congregations in New England as a settled minister and as an Accredited Interim Minister.
She taught at Andover Newton Theological School as the adjunct Professor of Communication. She chaired the UUA’s Racial and Cultural Diversity Task Force with Leon Spencer from 1992–97. She authored two books: Learning While Leading, Increasing Your Effectiveness in Ministry (Alban Institute), and Called to Community: New Directions in Unitarian Universalist Ministry, with Dorothy Emerson. Both are available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon. She has a coaching/consulting practice for clergy and congregations.
The mother of two and stepmother of two, grandmother of their combined eight children, Anita lives by the sea in Swampscott MA, with her dog Tinker.
The conference is scheduled for April 15–17 online or in person at Wilmington DE or Kingston MA. You can register for the conference at the UURMaPA website <HERE>. The conference fee is $45 per individual and scholarships are available. For more information and program details, check the Activities section on our webpage <HERE>.
The Rev. Janne Eller-Isaacs died on February 14, 2024, at the age of 71 (1953-2024).
Janne is survived by her son Jonah; daughters: Jessie (Andy), and Hannah (Tim); grandchildren: Lewis, Mira, Levi, and Benjamin; brothers: David (Abby), Jim (Jeannie), John (Margy) as well as her beloved nephews and a niece. She was preceded in death by her husband Rob (2022).
Two memorial services are being planned. One on April 27, 2024 (time TBA) at the First Unitarian Portland, 1211 SW Main St. Portland OR; and the other at Unity Church-Unitarian, 733 Portland Ave., St. Paul MN at 3 pm on May 11, 2024.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to Unity Church- Unitarian and the UUMA. UURMaPA will contribute to the UUMA Endowment Fund in honor of our colleague’s ministry.
Notes of condolences may be sent to Hannah Franco-Isaacs, 4770 NE Going St, Portland OR 97218.
A more complete obituary will be forthcoming after biographical research has been completed. It will be published in an upcoming issue of Elderberries and posted on the UURMaPA website.If any readers would wish to contribute information or reminiscences, we would welcome them. Please send them to UURMaPA’s clergy obituary editor, Rev. Jay Atkinson – jayatk40@gmail.com.
For the spring 2024 UURMaPA conference, two in-person locations will be available for members to meet and enjoy the conference together. One location is in Kingston, Massachusetts and the other is in Wilmington, Delaware. When you register for the conference, you may express your desire to attend at one of these locations. Read below for details about each site.
In Kingston, the conference POD will be at the First Parish UU Church. The site is fully accessible, with plenty of off street parking. The church will be utilized for both large presentations and small breakout groups. There is an option of take-out meals at the church and/or opportunities to go to nearby restaurants. Plan on staying at least three nights and longer if you want to sight-see in the area.
On the Tuesday morning before the conference, a local historian will make a presentation about the history of the congregation, which was established in 1719, and lead a walking tour of the colonial, revolutionary and civil war burying ground.
Many attractions are only ten minutes away in Plymouth: Multiple and varied arts offerings, fine and casual dining, Plymouth Harbor and the Plymouth and Pawtuxet living history museum, Pilgrim Memorial Hall, a Plymouth and Patuxet Wampanoag Arts, Culture and History museum, and any number of shopping opportunities.
More information is available by visiting www.kingstonuu.org. The website has everything you need to know about the location and has a map, directions to the church, and pictures of the buildings. For general questions, logistics, lodging, parking, special needs, send a message to Tom Schade trschade@gmail.com or Sarah Person person.revsarah@gmail.com.
In Wilmington, the First Unitarian Church will host an in-person POD to interact with others around the country. The church will host for both large presentations and small breakout groups. The church has an audio-visual system for the major presentations, but you might need a laptop or tablet for use during the breakout sessions. The church has a strong wi-fi signal throughout the building.
Some shared meals will be at the church with opportunities to go to area restaurants. Coffee and tea will be available during the meetings. Snacks, wine and beer will be available for a nominal donation to cover our expenses.
The Rev. David More Maynard died on November 22, 2023, at the age of 77 (1945-2023).
David is survived by his wife, Jane; four brothers; four children; and five grandchildren. A memorial service was held on Friday, December 8, 2023, at the First Unitarian Church of Portland, 1211 SW Main St., Portland OR.
A more complete obituary will be forthcoming after biographical research has been completed. It will be published in an upcoming issue of Elderberries and posted on the UURMaPA website.If any readers would wish to contribute information or reminiscences, we would welcome them. Please send them to UURMaPA’s clergy obituary editor, Jay Atkinson – jayatk40@gmail.com.
There’s this odd moment in winter, almost at it’s midpoint, where we celebrate Groundhog Day. Many people, perhaps most of the hosts on morning talk shows, will await the verdict to be delivered by Punxsutawney Phil in Pennsylvania, or Shubenacadie Sam up in Nova Scotia, or others of their kind in New York and Georgia and who knows where else. Whether or not these creatures “see” their shadow that morning tells us how much more “winter” we will experience.
And as usual, I expect it will be a mixed message. As it is with just about every other prognostication, the meaning is all up to interpretation. It will depend on where you awaken, and in what part of the country – whether the sun is shining or the morning sky is clouded. But as silly as all that Groundhog Day hoopla is, it reflects something deeply human. We want to know, with as much surety as possible, what is going to happen. Who will win the Super Bowl? How bad is it going to get in Washington? Will democracy survive? Will wars ever cease? What’s next for us?
We are always like this. We want to know, and we hope that the minutiae of weather lore or a statistical study or the latest polls will provide an answer. Sometimes we’ll grasp at anything that gives us a sense that we might actually be sure of something, even if we really don’t believe it. Early February also brings Candlemas, a cross-quarter day that falls between the Solstice and Equinox. It is a holiday that celebrates the beginning of spring – even if the temperature is frigid or ice covers the fields. One of the ancient names for this holiday is Imbolc, which means “in the belly.” And at this time of year the green and growing things are in the belly of the Great Mother, where they hide from our mundane, limited vision.
But as if sensed by a keener and wiser sight, all the stirrings of the season of growth to come — the quickening of life, the mystery of what is yet to be — are there. We are in what the ancient calendar called “fallow times.” Although concern for the fecundity of the fields and the birthing of lambs are far removed from our daily cares, there is something of value to us in marking and celebrating this “fallow time.”
What has this got to do with UURMaPA, you might well ask. As I reflected on those thoughts, I reflected about how “retirement” can so easily end up being month after month of “fallow times.” And that may not be the most healthful and helpful way for us to make our way through these elder years.
It’s often recommended as we retire that we find some meaningful way to contribute to society. I will confess that for a few years that felt to me like a big “ask.” We can’t all be like Jimmy Carter, who was a great exemplar of active service to the greater good. But we can do the smaller things that are of service to our families, to our local communities and organizations.
Even as we are living through some very challenging events in our country and our world, we can turn our thoughts and hearts to a greater sense of possibility. We can cautiously shake off hibernation, to emerge from comfortable burrows and warm caves. It is a time for new beginnings.
So as we welcome another season into our lives, I encourage you to think about where “service” might lead you this year. And in particular, I draw your attention to two particular opportunities right here in UURMaPA! Please read the “Help Wanted” ads in this Elderberries edition and if you can, spring into a new way of supporting your community.
Yours, in the faith, Susan Veronica Rak (retired but not retiring!)
The Fall Conference was a great success. One hundred and seventy-eight of us, including presenters, signed up, making this the most-attended conference ever. Further, 97 of us sent in evaluations afterward—a high percentage—almost all of them very favorable. Such a response attests to the welcoming, engaging, inclusive tone and practice the Planning Committee aimed for.
Our theme was “Blessings and Challenges: Successfully Navigating Change.” This theme cast a wide net, since we retirees are encountering change all around—in our inner lives and with our health, our interests, our relationships with family and loved ones, our professional lives, our present communities, and the wider world with its crucial challenges, to name a few. And also, with such a diverse group as we are, in our three days we simply had programming to give some examples of lives lived in such changes and then allow us to meet in small groups of six or so to share our individual responses to how we each were navigating our own way.
We were fortunate to have three in-person gatherings, “pods,” to creatively do their own programming and blend with our online offerings. Jaco and Barbara ten Hove arranged a pod for nearly 30 people at Seabeck Conference Center, WA (see photo below). Richard Speck arranged one for eight in Wilmington, DE. And Sylvia Howe arranged one for six in Columbus, OH. This allowed for some of us to gather in person and enjoy face-to-face camaraderie, adding another dimension to the conference for those who could make them. For the first time we also had a chaplain available each day. MarniHarmony, John Gilmore, and Diane Teichert each volunteered to provide a safe, caring support for our gathering.
We began each session with a slide show of pictures and names of everyone who sent them in so that we could connect names and countenances of those we did not know and greet in our hearts those we did. Jeff Briere pulled this together with a worldwide soundtrack he had carefully selected as background. We began and ended our gathering in worship services, with Lynda Sutherland, Susan Rak, Sonja Sukalski, and Barbara ten Hove providing an opening worship that acknowledged the crisis in the Mideast, lifted up the related issues of land acknowledgment for all of us, and welcomed us to this gathering of spirit. One of us wrote, “It was beautifully done. The whole experience moved me and stayed with me.”
We then went to our opening check-in small groups for people to share “How is it with thy spirit?” Sonya Sukalski coordinated these three gatherings, with the support of Barbro Hansson attending to late-comers, and, of course, the wizardry of our talented tech person, Jon Claney. Each group had a facilitator who was trained in our guidelines and foci for the groups. The second gathering was specifically theme-related, and the final was an opportunity to gain closure and share take-aways from the gathering. In an effort to be more inclusive of partners, everyone had the option to be in a group of partners, ministers, or mixed. As one person put it: “It was great to hear what a diverse group of colleagues were doing to maintain focus and meaning in their lives—and to contend with physical and psychological challenges of aging in these troubled times.”
Experimentally, each of the eight program sessions ended with some online socializing of all who wanted to stay on for a bit. These gravitated to reactions to the programming before, and our facilitation improved so that people kept coming back.
The next section began with Wayne Arnason introducing the chaplain of the day and then the presenters from the UUA and UUMA. First were Sofia Betancourt and Jessica York in an open conversation between them about the UUA changes they felt were most important. Wayne then moderated a panel of UUA and UUMA staff on how they saw themselves and our ministers and congregations faithfully navigating change. Jessica York, Jan Gartner, Phillip Lund, and Melissa Carville Ziemer shared, and Richard Speck facilitated the question and answer session that followed.
The last session of the first day began with a presentation by Linda Olsen Peebles and Roberta Finkelstein on the status of a proposed new UUMA chapter of retired ministers, with Wayne moderating again. Then Charles Stephens began the Odyssey for the evening and invited Peter Richardson to introduce his spouse, Eleanor Richardson, for her Odyssey, followed by questions and reactions. As one person said: “Oh my! What a fascinating life story. Everything was so interesting. What a proactive woman!” Virtual socializing followed.
Ohio “pod” participants included, from left to right: Sylvia Howe, Paul L’Herrou, Lynda Smith, Joan VanBecelaere, Marco Belletini, Suzan McCrystal, and Holly Horn. Ben Maucere also attended.
Our second day began with Roberta Finkelstein introducing and then moderating a theme panel of four of our own numbers, two partners and two minsters, describing how they have been navigating the blessings and challenges of change in their lives. Larry Ladd and Cathie Severance spoke as partners, and Duane Fickeisen and Janne Eller-Isaacs spoke as ministers. There was time for responses from all afterwards. The presentations were deeply personal and varied. One person put it: “It was an incredibly enriching experience. I was deeply moved by their profound sharing. I thank them for their insights into the challenges and rewards of aging, in both our personal and professional lives.”
Our second Tuesday session featured one of the three spotlights on a pod, followed by presentations from our UURMaPA Board on various issues and programs for us retirees. We then broke into our discussion groups to go more deeply into our theme together, inspired by the panel sharings before. Again, a response:”This was a most helpful piece of the program.The panelists were honest and clear and I was impressed with current services to our congregations.”
We finished the day with our customary Remembrance Service for colleagues we lost this past year. Before it, we regretfully announced the death earlier that morning of Carolyn Owen-Towle, whose remembrance will be in the Spring Conference. The service was put together by Lynda Sutherland, Anne Marsh, Barbara ten Hove, Gloria Perez, John Gilmore, Richard Speck, and Terence Ellen. There were opening reflections and music followed by brief biographies of each colleague with the placing of a white rose in a vase in honor and celebration of their life.
The honorings were broken into four sections with different readers and musical interludes between each of the four to provide time for individual reflections. To maintain focus the chat was closed until after the honorings, when all were invited to share both written and spoken remembrances and appreciations. One response was “The warm and effective memorials with visuals, musical interludes, and pacing has reached some kind of pinnacle for an online service of remembrance. Very touching, heart-warming, to hear the stories of the lives of members who died this year.” Afterwards, virtual socializing extended the sharing.
On Wednesday we first heard two brief UUA presentations from Keith Kron (Targeted Ministries) and Anna Gehres (retirement finances), and then heard the Odyssey of Olav Nieuwejaar, who was introduced by his UURMaPA support group. One hearer responded, “One of the most powerful and vulnerable and authentic stories I have heard in a long time. It affected me profoundly.” An open time for responses followed and continued in the virtual socializing.
Our last session included our last break-out groups focussed on our take-aways from the conference. These were followed by a powerful closing worship by Ned Wight of our UUMaPA Board. It brought all of our varied Conference experiences into an integrated, emotional whole with both words and music. One respondent said, “It was the highlight of the conference for me. Superbly prepared and presented.”
Barbro Hansson then said a few “Last Things,” including the date of the Spring Conference, Monday, April 15 to Wednesday, April 17. Although Barbro stayed in the background almost the whole conference, she was the unseen presence bringing it all about by her indefatigable persistence, experience, creativity, organizational abilities, good humor, and warmth on the Planning Committee. She’ll be convening our April conference as well.
The Committee has read through all of the responsive feedback to the various parts of this gathering, and are working them into the planning for the Spring Conference as best we can. There are a number of good ideas, most pronounced of which is the repeated desire for including diversity in all its forms, for example, economic differences, as we select speakers and other programming.
These conferences have evolved under Barbro and others, and with your considered feedback and the continuing support from our UURMaPA Board, will continue to evolve and try new things in order to provide a welcoming, stimulating, and heart-touching combination of pod and virtual community.
With thanks to you all,
Terence Ellen, Publicity, for the rest of the Planning Committee: Barbro Hansson (Convenor) Anne Marsh (Scribe +) Richard Speck (Pod Liaison, Tech Assistant) Lynda Sutherland (Worship) Charles Stephens (Odysseys) Wayne Arnason (Chaplains, Liaison to UUA, UUMA & UURMaPA) Roberta Finkelstein (Theme Panel) Jeff Briere (Slide Show) Sonja Sukalski (Small Groups), and Jon Claney (Tech Professional)